Comfort Tray

I have always dreaded the day I would have to finally deliver my first comfort tray. After nine months, the day has come for me to do so. Let me explain what a comfort tray is; a comfort tray is this platter of various foods such as, apples, oranges, cheese, crackers and cookies. Now when someone's family or friend dies and are grieving their loss, we send this little platter of tasty treats and goodies. Never in the history of my life have i ever met anyone that likes to cry and stuff their face with food. Unless you are one of those melodramatic people that find something sad or depressing in everything you do, such as eating. In this case it may be played out in this kind of manner and may sound familiar to some. You're sitting there eating your meal and you are about to finish off your green beans when you remember your dog who you would let eat your green beans. But you gave the dog to your sister and your sister looks more like your mom than you do, who died six and a half years ago, so you start crying while trying to finish off your green beens. But to me nothing says good mourning like extra sharp cheese and a triscut. If that were me in that situation I would take that as an insult and look to bitch slap someone with that very triscut given to me. What are people thinking? What is the thought process that would lead them to the conclusion that death and food go hand in hand? This is how I can see it being done. Your standing there, crying your eyes out and in so much pain, just completely grief stricken; then out of no where this man comes in like superman, but instead of a cape and a huge "S" on his chest, he is wearing a hair net and rubber gloves. He sets this platter on the table, next to the body of your family member, and all thoughts of pain and hurt and loss are gone?! Replaced with a chip ahoy. Like an answer to a prayer all your pain and problems solved and healed with a double stuffed. How does that make sense? Why don't you go in there and give them a hug you simple bastard? Why are people so insensitive to that? Or are they just plain stupid? But when the day comes where the roles are reversed you want to get mad at someone for doing the same thing you did (or would do). Same day, another lady and her daughter were crying. They just broke down right there in the hallway and everyone is either standing there staring like "What's your problem", or people are walking by thinking the same thing. Now at this point I would have to say that doing something is better than doing nothing, meaning at this point go ahead and give them a comfort tray instead of standing there looking at them like an idiot. Why is it that when anything bad happens to someone, people stop and stare like a deer caught in headlights? There are so many problems in our lives, we should be trying to make it better and start looking out for each other a little bit more. What's it going to hurt? We start caring and taking care each of other and making life a little more pleasant instead of looking for an easy way out. A little side note that I will not dig into to much at this time. people should treat everyday as though it were Christmas. Not everyone, but most people are a lot nicer and more considerate around the holidays. If everyone helped take care of everyone else instead of their own selfish wants <---- thats right WANTS not needs; then maybe you wouldn't be so worried about life. Just knowing that someone cares makes a huge impact on your life. Because if we don't we would all be Emo and cutting ourselves. Cause lets face it Christmas has to be about something other than free gifts, because it sure isn't about the religious part anymore.